It hits..

Me when I think how people say something but their behaviour proves something different. I was thinking that many people nowadays (me included) are selfish although they say they are not. How come? Most of the people are unbelievable selfish when it is touching the question with whom they will spend their life. Contemporary idea is that you choose your partner for your life (of course you dont have to stay with your partner forever a simply divorce). We do not have (in the majority of west world) marriages agreed in a young age of both participants. Easy live your life but nobody will push you into living a life with somebody you dont want to. Question is was this 'possible' in the past? It just seems to me that all these thoughts about love which nowadays has the implications of being romantic (compared to the past) and we demand falling in love, being attracted to somebody even having a loving partner and a beautiful relationship for the whole time of being together. BUT thats apparently not how the reality works. Having struggles in place is common and we simply (yes it is simple if we count with that) need to solve them instead of leaving them behind unsolved and having a new partner instead.